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Tarot Reflections

  February 15, 2003

Network Notes
Connecting with Unseen Clients, Part I:
Studying the Request
Tracy Hite, Free Tarot / Free Readings Network Manager

Tracy began her own Tarot journey while recovering from her first son's birth on New Year's Eve, 1996. She tried to study on her own for nearly a year, picking up what she could from books and websites, but she had a lot of trouble piecing everything together. Through membership in  the American Tarot Association, she met the contacts and gained the expertise needed to gain her certification as a Certified Tarot Master.

Tracy uses a variety of decks to gain a fresh perspective on problems, or to point out ideas or issues she might not have considered otherwise. She admits that she can't predict the future, but does believe that working with the cards can help "move life forward."

She's honored to serve as Manager for both the Free Reading Network and the Free Tarot Network. If you have any ideas or suggestions to improve the networks, please contact Tracy at


(Author's note: Rather than use more awkward pronouns, I've alternated genders throughout. This article is intended to apply equally to clients of both genders.)

When reading by email, how do you connect with a client you'll never see or hear? Network requests include the client's first name and gender, but how do you tell one Annie from the next? There's no body language or verbal cues to indicate her state of mind. Her question may be a few terse words, or ramble on and on without getting to the point. With careful study (and a little practice) a simple request can reveal more about her than is readily apparent.

One of the biggest clues to a client's personality is his birth date. Is he older or younger than you? You might want to address an elder differently than a peer, for instance, or use more slang in a reading for a college-age person. Has he had a birthday recently, or is one approaching soon? If so, he may be feeling introspective and taking stock of his life. This is especially true around such milestones as a 30th or 40th birthday - or a 21st. If you have knowledge of astrology, what sign is he? Can numerology reveal any clues to his personality?

Another bit of information that can reveal a surprising amount about your client is her email address.  Is your client from Australia (ending in .au),
Spain (.es) or South Africa (.za)? Each country has its own specific two-letter code. (See list here.)

Do they have an unusual handle or alias? "Drummer2" might play in a band, while "Knitwit" makes sweaters in her spare time. Try visiting the domain for her email address ( would be, for instance). She may have her own website, or be using a work address that gives you information about her career.
If it turns out to be a local Internet provider, the website may tell you what part of the country she calls home.

How your client expresses himself may provide clues as well. Does he ask only a few brief words, or give you his life history? Is he looking for advice or a prediction? Or does he seem to be pretty sure of his answer and just want confirmation? If it's a relationship
question, has he been careful to use gender-neutral words like "partner" or "lover" rather than "girlfriend"? If so, it's usually best to keep your response gender-neutral as well. If the question is awkwardly phrased, perhaps English is not your client's native language (especially if the same is indicated by his email address). In such cases, try to avoid slang or American colloquialisms he may not understand.

What if you've gathered everything you can from the request but still can't seem to connect? Next time I'll cover some tips for using your cards to help you focus on your unseen client.


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